​​​​​☐ I love him, but I don’t feel drawn to him
☐ I stay because it feels familiar
☐ I feel more like a companion than a lover
☐ I miss who I was at the beginning
☐ I feel responsible for keeping things “okay”
☐ I sometimes wonder who I’d be without him

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B. Desire & Touch

This is not about performance — only about truth.

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☐ I enjoy affection, but avoid sexual closeness
☐ I rarely feel spontaneous desire for him
☐ Being touched feels safe, but not exciting
☐ I miss being wanted, not just loved
☐ I don’t feel curious about his body anymore
☐ I fantasise — and it isn’t about him

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C. Emotional Presence

Notice how it feels to be yourself with him.

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☐ I edit myself to keep the peace

☐ I don’t feel deeply seen anymore
☐ I feel lonely even when we’re together
☐ I bring my best energy elsewhere
☐ I stop myself from asking for more
☐ I feel grateful — but also quietly sad

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D. The Future Question

Answer without guilt. Without logic. Without fear.

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☐ If nothing changed, I wouldn’t choose this again
☐ I can’t picture us growing closer
☐ I feel relieved when he’s not there
☐ I’m scared to want more
☐ I wonder if this is “as good as it gets”
☐ The thought of staying forever makes my chest feel tight

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E. The Body Knows

Read these slowly.

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☐ My body relaxes away from him
☐ My body braces when we talk about “us”
☐ I feel more alive imagining a different life
☐ I miss being desired as a woman
☐ I feel numb more than connected
☐ Something inside me is quietly asking for honesty

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A gentle reminder

If many of these resonated, it does not mean you must leave.
It means you’re listening.

You don’t need answers today.
You don’t need a plan.
You only need permission to tell yourself the truth.

If this checklist stirred something, you’re not broken — you’re awake.
And you’re not alone.